At What Point Do We Learn to Take Our Own Advice?

Posted 13 June, 2014 by Amanda / 19 Comments


I’ve been terrible at keeping up with discussion posts lately. Reviews? Out through August. But discussions? My brain is elsewhere. (Writing and promotion and business, because this month is becoming a lot busier than I anticipated.)

And if it were any other person BUT me, I’d say, “Oh, don’t worry about it.”

Or “Don’t break yourself trying to get something up. We’ll still be here!”

Or even “Don’t push yourself to do something you’re not feeling. It’s not worth burnout.”

Yet, here I am, writing a post. Which makes me wonder…

Why do we find it so difficult to take our own advice?

Because it’s easier said than done. Because, deep down, we feel like we’ve failed—ourselves, the blog, our readers, I don’t know—if we don’t keep to a schedule. Because a schedule is a schedule. It’s a routine.

I’ve already stopped posting Clock Rewinders posts. I don’t miss them. My blog doesn’t seem to suffer for it. No one’s told me they miss it. But discussion posts? That I can’t let go so easily. (Not that I have plans to stop writing discussion posts. Just letting one or two go here and there.)

So really. Truthfully and honestly.

How often do you take your own advice? Blogging or otherwise?

For me? Perhaps not as often as I should.

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19 Responses to “At What Point Do We Learn to Take Our Own Advice?”

  1. I agree, the hardest to follow is my own advice, be it for blogging or anything else. I often know from my own experience something works or should/shouldn’t be done, but from time to time I forget about it and then relearn it anew after some time. But I’m trying to improve and remember my own advice better.

  2. Oh my gosh, I’m terrible at listening to my own advice. It’s so hard, because our blogs (or whatever we’re stressing about) obviously are important to us. I mean, otherwise we wouldn’t be stressing about it, I think.

    • I agree! It’s kind of why I don’t mind when people throw my advice back at me. Because sometimes you just need to hear it from someone else.

  3. THIS AMANDA! I do the same thing when I see a post about someone being busy and unable to post – I tell them not to worry about it, that no one cares if they need to take a day, a week, etc. off, but yet I feel absurdly guilty if I can’t get around to comment one day. No matter how busy I am, I still make sure my blog posts go up, and I know the only person who really cares is me. If I missed a day, no one else would be bothered, but I can’t help it:)

    • I knoooow. I’m pretty sure no one would even know I didn’t post something. It’d be a blip only I notice. But it’s so hard to let go!

  4. I completely understand this. If I miss one day I just throw my hands in the air and give up because the whole damn world will fall apart because I missed my schedule. When in actuality the world isn’t even aware that I have one. ;)

    We tend to expect more from ourselves and I have no idea if there is a way to correct that.

    • I agree, Stephanie. We’re our own worst critics, I think. Perhaps simply being aware of it is the first step to doing something about it. We may never correct it completely, but we can get better at it.

  5. Sometimes yes, sometimes no. I get so set in my ways, it’s hard to change, even if that change is a necessity (this also comes with getting older. I’m afraid I’m going to be that crotchety old woman with yappy dogs yelling at the neighbor kids because they’re having too much fun.).

    • I actually think I’m getting better as I get older with not getting set in my ways. (Though in many ways, I still feel like I’m coming out of my shell, even though I’m nearly 30.) But I do know that change is hard. It’s really hard. And it’s easier to stick with the devil you know.

  6. It is hard for people to follow their own set of rules because we feel we can more easily break our own rules for ourselves. It is harder to break promises to others and to do as others have asked of you because you feel the guilt. When it is yourself you just let it go.

  7. It’s definitely hard. I think part of it is that we hold ourselves to overly high standards that we don’t hold others to. For at least me personally, I don’t mind if a blog I follow doesn’t post for a while or misses a couple discussion posts. The way I read blogs in my feed reader, I probably wouldn’t even notice unless the blogger pointed it out. But I’m not willing to let myself do that because I still deep down think that that would reflect poorly on me and the blog *sigh*. One of these days though!

  8. This is so true for me when it comes to general life. However, with blogging, I do not take it as priority which is bad for ‘web reputation’ and all, but I could care less. Lol. My blogging mantra is to blog when I can and when I feel like it. I actually follow that advice a little *too* much. It does make me a blogging failure to many, but I rather not fail myself, if you get what I mean.

    • Eh. Who cares what others think as long as you’re happy with what you’re doing? The people worth your time will definitely stick around anyway. :)

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